You dont have to be liked by everyone

You just have to like yourself enough that you you dont care if people like you or not.
The problem with this generation is that they want to be ‘liked’ and ‘followed’

People like you for who you are, not what you pretend to be

Or want to be.

You dont need to change yourself for others, 

You change because you want …to …grow out of your own insecurities.
And were brave enough to accept your own weakness to overcome it.

Most people get disappointed when people they met do not appear to be who they thought they were or expected to be.
Thats where you always get disappointed…

Because we ‘expect’ people to be who we want them to be without realizing that these people are born in their own way, go through different experience than us, exposed to different environment and one thing for sure…are not …like ..you

If only people would accept the simple fact that, human beings,even animals are never the same. 
Even if they share the same parents, grow in the same house, studied at the same school…but never share the same body and mind 
(even siamese twins have different personality than the other)

So why bother complaining about how these people arent behaving the way you expect them to be, when you can never expect them to behave the way we want them to be.

Stop trying to control how people should behave in this world, stop criticizing everything that irritates you, stop pointing out other peoples flaw just because you dont like them.

One year or less than now, they might have change to a better person in the future and you are still stuck with who they were in the past.

If you have time to focus on other peoples lackness….probably..you are the one whos lack of focus in your life. Because people who have time to find faults in others, surely havent been spending enough time reflecting into their own fault.

I read somewhere that, people who are too busy about other peoples life, do not have any goals in their life except talking about other peoples life. People who have goals in life, are too busy trying to achieve their own goal than talking about useless talk.

So spend your time wisely, choose your words carefully and stop wasting your time on things that dont matter to you or benefit you.
Resisting yourself from talking about peoples life and actually putting your life together….are much harder than you think. 
Try that sometime, and see how your life will actually change.


National mourning day & ‘merdeka’ day

Today is the national mourning day for Malaysians here, as we welcome home the crews and passengers of MH17. Its also the month of our Independence Day which will fall on the 31st of August.

With all the loss we had to brave through the storms, the word …’Merdeka’ probably gives us a different meaning other than our life.
As we see our flag being raised half …

What is …’Merdeka’ to us now?

If being free from the western ideology, then it would be quite questionable for without the west there is no east as well. And without the east and other civilizations before the renaissance, there wouldnt be a renaissance. So pretty much, we exist for each others existence.

Now that is clear, let us go back to ‘Merdeka’ which i purposely use Malaysian language. First, because it is our identity, for ‘freedom’ are rather subjective and open to interpretations.

Though the word ‘Merdeka’ narrows it down to a more specific and close to the hearts of Malaysians perhaps?

“Merdeka is a word in the Indonesian and Malay language meaning independent or free. It is derived from the Sanskrit maharddhika meaning “rich, prosperous and powerful”.

How rich do we want to be when it also means that the cost of living will also rise? How prosperous we want to be when tall building being built around us and ‘imprisoned’ us ?

How powerful can we be and will that guarantee our life not being at risk of other countries targeting our peace?Can a single case of suicide caused by depression also calls us to rethink of being rich and famous will give us happiness?

Or does the richness we collected all these years makes us rude to the elders like what happened a few days before the MH17 tragedy? Its not the first time we see rude young generation towards the elders, even to teachers and even animals.

The only difference is, most of these people gets away with it because nobody records them (but im sure God does!) In what way do we want to be prosperous while at the same time we have homeless and rising living cost , house, and unemployment rate (even the so called first world have a rising number of unemployment rate)

And does being powerful makes us powerful when we opress another country ‘freedom’ by invading their country for years?

So what does ‘Merdeka’ now means to you?

Why not, being rich means that we also give more to the people in need. What if it makes you even kinder and not suspicious of other peoples sincerity?

What if being prosperous makes you someone who makes sure the people, the community around us prospers with you instead of envy you?

What if it makes you share your happiness by making other people happy too?

What if being powerful is having the power to protect and defend those who have been oppressed?

What if it means empowering ourselves by being able to accept ourselves the way we are?

What if it means overcoming our differences instead of pointing fingers at other people just because they are different from you?

That all of us have their own strength and weakness, that being different is what make us different and unique in our own way. That by accepting our weakness , strengthens you instead of bringing you down. That even if sometimes we make mistakes, it doesnt mean our existence is a mistake instead, its a way for us to improve ourselves from time to time?

Go ahead be creative and rethink your life. See things in a different angle,and become who we really are by being ourselves. By focusing on our strength instead of looking at our weakness only. Find a way to overcome our weakness, and be happy with who we are.

Be ‘merdeka’ of yourself and from what other people think of you. You are what your think you are. So imagine yourself as who you want to be in the future and make that step to become that person from today!


Photo credit to William Ng

Fatemeh Behboudi

Had the chance to meet Fatemeh Behboudi , an Iranian photographer who currently doing an exhibition during the  OBSCURA  Photography Festival . I must say, I was impressed by her work. 

This was my fave, title “Mothers of patience” , where a mother who have been waiting for 27 years for any news about his sons who may have died during the war in Iraq. Whenever she is sad, she does to the side of the road and thinks about her son  Hamid reza (18 years old) and Golam reza (17 years old)

Source: Poyi.org

Raya 2014

A quiet and yet fortunate enough to be able to celebrate Eid with 3 of my fave person, Maktok, my niece, Izzati and nephew, Zharfan.  Also, welcoming our newest addition in the family, another niece, Fatimah (picture can’t be uploaded until appropriate time)

Alhamdulillah 🙂