When we (my family & me) heard the news, we were in the car reading the official press statement by the Prime Minister via one of our phones. Since that we missed the official announcement. we only manage to listen to the rerun on the radio. Once the news was over, there was a long silence during the rest of our journey home after reciting Al Fatihah.
There’s a lot of things that came to my mind, but i only hope for one, may Allah make it easy for them to bear the test that Allah have given them and us as well. It took me some time to post this, I’m not sure if i should even post this since everyone are probably still mourning. But writing is a therapy, and it helps me to get this off my head. Also for a fact that, we don’t need one more negative posts/ comments at times like this. As cliché as this sound, but i do believe that we need more positivity in our life.
By now there was still people who doesn’t have a heart on MH370, I can see it on my newsfeed so i choose to ignore those posts or anyone like them at once rather than wasting my feelings over people who don’t matter to me. I couldnt care less for those people. We dont need another more non-human like them, even animals have a heart. why can’t you?
Remove me from any social media with me in it if you want, I would gladly show you the button. You have a choice to share or not to share your post, so does a choice to add more anger or sadness or kind words on this fateful incident.
If you have the choice to be ‘right’ or kind, always choose to be kind, you wouldn’t loose anything by resisting those temptations to be ‘right’ or even if you are ‘wrong’ about it, it doesn’t matter or change the fact they no longer have any chance to survive and answer your ‘accusations’, ‘assumptions’, and what not.
You don’t have to be the ‘first’ to share about whatever you think you know from various sources whom we don’t even know how true or reliable it is. I am not going to tell you which one is true or false, reliable or not, because the only thing I am sure of……. this is not a competition, it is Allah’s decree . Full stop.
Thats the only thing that the foreign media you have been worshipping never want to admit or make anyone stop and reflect, that this is nothing but Allah alone who knows best the reason behind this tragedy.
We asked, He answered. And yet we questioned.
And We have put before them a barrier and behind them a barrier and covered them, so they do not see.
And it is all the same for them whether you warn them or do not warn them – they will not believe.
You can only warn one who follows the message and fears the Most Merciful unseen. So give him good tidings of forgiveness and noble reward.
Sura Yaasin 36:9-11
Note: I leave you with the above verse, it was a verse from the Quran where i had to stop myself from reading the entire surah. I will recite again later when i am more calmed.
Meanwhile, appreciate what/whoever you already have and love each other no matter what, learn to love again.
Ask forgiveness now, or choose to forgive so you can let go of those bitter feelings inside us.
Mend what is broken, leave what you don’t need.Take time to heal, but don’t hang on to your past too long.
Do the things you’ve always wanted, because we never know when is our last day. Whatever happens to your life, have faith that Allah have a better plan for us and trust whatever He have given to us as the best for us and as far as we can bear to handle.
I could go on writing all this motivational words, but only you can motivate yourself. We are after all our own cheer leader when you can’t find anyone/anything to cheer you up.
So yeah, choose to live for those who had to leave you. Because that is the best way to move on, knowing that even without them in our life, they are still alive in our thoughts and i am sure if they are still alive, they would be so proud to see that you have finally found a way to be happy despite their departure.
I believe that no one who is loved by anyone would want to see us sad when we are gone. Its a known fact that one wish nothing but all the happiness for the people they love, even if they can’t be there to see it or make them happy.
And there is no one wiser than the last final words of Morrie Schwartz on ‘dying’ itself, which is:
“It’s natural to die. The fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is all because we don’t see ourselves as part of nature. We think because we’re human we’re something above nature.”
“It’s more than the negative that you’re going to die, it’s the positive that you understand you’re going to die, and that you live a better life because of it.”
“Dying is only one thing to be sad over… living unhappily is something else”
‘Death ends a life, not a relationship.’
“Once you learn how to die you learn how to live”
“The way you get meaning in your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning”