Review: About Time (2013)

I can’t explain how beautiful this movie is. I have really underrated the power of a Ginger Man which I could say that this may just be, a life after Hogwarts kind of movie for Ron & Hermione if they were muggles. Instead of Ron, he was actually Bill Weasley!!

I must say I am impressed since his character didn’t appear much in the movies so I was a bit of surprised that he could pull off such a charming Irish plus British all over the movie
(Friendly reminder Uncle Vernon made a cameo!)

So as the trailer says, its about Tim who could travel in time. I don’t agree much that only the guys in the family could travel though but it would be a chaos if everyone or both men and women could travel in time haha.

On another note, I love almost everything about this movie, its no wonder that it gave me a familiar feeling when I read up that the Director/Writer of this movie – Richard Curtis are the same person who made Bridget Jone’s Diary, Notting Hill & Love Actually. he will come out with Roald Dahl’s Esio Trot this year….so its definitely going to be in my watch list.

Trust me, its more than a chick flick if you really pay attention to the scripts and how their life changes.It makes you rethink of how you see your boring life, particularly on what the father says about experiencing it & noticing what you miss. Of cause its impossible to travel into time, but we can always travel with time by living the moment & time we have.

I was really touched by the wedding scene, it started with a calm & happy day before halfway through the reception, the wind came and the rain fell heavily , while the rest of the guest soak with water – even the roof was blown away! So I thought it was very beautiful how what you think were a disastrous wedding party, turned into a fun playing under the rain party. Like, how many time in the world you can get wet and dance under the rain in a wedding? It is not so bad idea haha

But how can you forget how beautiful were Rachel Adams when  the door was opened and there she was in her red wedding dress and Il Mondo playing as she cheekily dance through the aisle? What an entrance!

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Other interesting part would be the subway scene, like the focus were the singing musicians at the subway, while the character’s life changes everyday going to and from the subway while the musicians were playing “How Long Will I love You’ . So it seems like you are living in a still life but everything actually moving around you

And before I spoil the whole movie is about, please watch and find out yourself 😉

As all families do, we got used to life after death. And it was still fine. And things settled back into their traditional rhythms season after season, and are much as they have always been. And we’ve got used to Kit Kat being happy again. And then we got used to her being a mum. Albeit not a very good or even safe one. And in the end, I think I’ve learned the final lesson from my travels in time. And I’ve even gone one step further than my father did. The truth is, I now don’t travel back at all. Not even for the day. I just try to live every day as if I’ve deliberately come back to this one day to enjoy it as if it was the full final day of my extraordinary, ordinary life. And in we go.We’re all travelling through time together every day of our lives. All we can do is do our best to relish this remarkable ride.” 

About Time (2013)

        

‘Money’

When you understand what money is actually is you wont really pay much attention into gaining money. Money in this age may no longer rely on how much you make but with whom you make it.

Money by definition is anything of value that you agree on. 

Love can be a form of money, you may not put a price at it but you may value it so highly or cheaply to some. Some freely gives out their love or falls in love just about anyone who gave them the slightest attention, even if they do not treat them the way they deserve to be treated

But like Stephen Chbosky says “We accept the love we deserve”

So perhaps they felt that they do not deserve someone better than them that they settle for whoever willing to accept them – even if it means – changing who they are into someone who they are not.

We negotiate love as much as we negotiate the stuffs we buy, some aren’t even negotiable because you have to accept the whole package – even the defects because as it says “Terms & Condition applies”

Recognition are also a form of money, we want to be recognized or known – that our existence matters to people whom we yearn for their attention. It can be from a father or mother, friends, colleagues, employer, and the list goes on.

And so we again, negotiate and put our own value towards what we want to be recognized as. We work hard to be recognized, even if you are an artist, they work hard going for shows, creating musics that either caters the majority taste in music or create their own music regardless if people like it or not as long as they like it.

I feel sorry sometimes to the musicians in Malaysia, they work hard to gain such attention , resorting to cheap publicity stunt, or wear in a certain way that can be most appealing but never – original. Stop trying too hard in gaining people’s attention and focus on making your own music that can highlight your own talent.

Friends, are also a form of ‘money’. For me, its not how many friends you have that matters but who remains your friend after all these years. Even if it means one or no one at all. You are blessed if you have more than one true friend. But stop trying to make so many friends, like adding so many people on your friend list to whom you either never or hardly talk to. Focus on few close friends one at a time, keep in touch once in a while, ask them how they are, ask them not through facebook or whatsapp, call them , see them, spend time with them.Have real conversations. And see how it will change your life.

Its hard to keep in touch often, but who says you have to contact them everyday? True friends don’t need to be contacted every day, they simply know that they always have you as a friend.

Networking are also a form of money, a vital currency especially. Never take the people or strangers that you encounter and have opportunity to talk to pass by. Unless of cause you have a bad day but if opportunity arises , just go ahead and be the first to say Hi. Even with a mere cleaners, or taxi drivers, you can learn so many things from their life. Strangers are friends you’ve never met..but of cause with caution that they may also be stalkers but reserve the doubts first and let them surprise you. Who knows it could be your future bff’s or husband/wife tralalala~

Neighbours per say, are also one of the most important ‘currency’. Being good with your neighbour and caring for your neighbourhood is as important as caring over your friends. They are after all the closest family you can turn to when you don’t have anyone at home to help you or look after your home when you are out. This I find a depleting within our society, for when we rely on foreigners to guard our home , they may or may not protect your home even after you have paid the money. But neighbours lives in your neighbourhood for as long as you know. Unless they have to move out,but never take for granted of your neighbours.

And the famous quote: Time is money 

So how you spend your time are also valuable.

Our health are also ‘money’ by itself – you even have to ‘pay’ to be ‘healthy’.

And I could write a long  list of this on and on but really, what is money  when you dont have anyone to share with?  Or worst, when you are all alone on your deathbed with no one but the nurses you paid and the medical bills to pay?

Sir Ken Robinson on ‘Passion’

“Very many people spend their entire life doing things they don’t really care for, they just get through the week. One way or another they endure that lives and wait for the weekend, with no sense of fulfilment. Kinda general sense of tolerance for it, or not? I think of this as the ‘other’ climate crisis…. Most people have no idea of what they are capable of, no real sense of their talents or their abilities. and very many people therefore conclude they don’t have any – there’s nothing special about them. And my conviction is contrary – we are all born with deep talents and abilities.

If you have a dog, they don’t change much are they culturally? With human being as though we are something new, we are always on to something because we have not just the power of imagination , but what flows it, which is the power of creativity , the ability to produce things, to make things, to make new things. and we are all born with that. Like we are born with power language, and the power of thought it comes with a kit. But some discover the unique ability, some don’t. And those who don’t often conclude they don’t have any.

I also meet people who actually have found what they think their natural place, their natural talents. And they love what they do, and the life’s that flows from it. they are in their element. To be in the element is two things, one of them is you are doing something for which you have a natural capacity – that you get it.

One of the ways you know that you are in your element is that your sense of time changes. If you are doing things you don’t like, 5 minutes feels like an hour. if you are doing things you love to do, an hour feels like 5 minutes.

Its not enough to be good at something, to be in your element. I know a lots of people to be doing something they are good at, they don’t like, they are just good at it. We are being brought up that life is linear, haven’t we?
This is an idea perpetuated when you write your CV, you set out your life in series of dates and achievements. In a linear way, as if your whole existence is progress and ordered, structured way to bring you to this current individual at the moment, It all give an impression that we are in control of our life, that our life is not a random chaotic events, that you don’t want to present to a prospective employer, do you? That my life was in a mess right until now,frankly.

I look at my CV, I think I didn’t planned this. You don’t plan things like that do you? You take opportunities and you respond to them. But you take more willingly if they co-respond to your own aptitude and sensibility.

Narrates a story about how a Concert Pianist became a book Editor.

At the end of her concert, she went off for a dinner with the conductor and the conductor said “You were brilliant tonight – but you didn’t enjoy it – the performance?”

She said “No, not so especially”

He said Why do you do it then?”

She said: “I suppose, I’m good at it”

And he said, “Being good at something isn’t a good enough reason doing it,not to spend your life with it.”

And she realized that, being born into musical family, she shown a talent, she takes all exams, she gone into musically based school, but nobody stopped and ask me if I wanted to do it.

She said, “I didn’t ask myself, I just took it for granted that’s what my life’s going to be. Its only when he ask me, I realize I didn’t like it – my whole life – the things that I love to do – books. I love reading books, I love writers, I love being with writers, I love the literary culture. I crammed whenever I could but I never thought that was an available life for me.

And Ive decided then on that’s the thing I wanted to do – at the end. I closed the piano lid – and I’ve lived in the world I wanted to be in. Ive been working on books, Ive never been happier. Never poorer but never happier. ”

And that’s the thing, being in the element doesn’t necessarily entails financial riches, but it does offer much guarantee of some sort spiritual fulfilment. Spirituality – sense of what animates your life, we talk about being high spirit or low spirit, if you’re in your element in whatever it is you love to do. Then at the end of the day or week, you can be physically exhausted by it, but spiritually uplifted. But if you are doing things you don’t care for, at the end of the day, you can feel physically fine, but down and leading to lift yourself up again.

And in the end its about energy, thats all life is, isn’t it? Its about energy, its what stirs your energy, what encourages it, what fuels it, and what it takes from you. And I find, if you are doing things you love to do, you get energy from it. Some activities takes it from you, you spend your life doing something – you feel it drains you. But I see people doing things they love to do, and their energy level have risen because of it. Because they take energy from their activity, it doesn’t drain their energy. And since life is essentially ‘energy’, it seems rather important that we try to pursue those things for ourselves.

So many people have denied that possibility.I know a lot of people have stumbled upon the things they love to do and taking the opportunity – other times, they are being helped by other people that have seen their talent before they saw it. In almost every case there are mentors, somebody out there who support and help you.

Life is not linear, when you follow your own interest, you connect with your own energy, your life takes a different path. New people come into it, new opportunities comes in, you effect their life, and they effect your life. If you do that, opportunities open up, that weren’t there before – that other people wouldn’t had, because this is your life opening up.

The reason is, we create our own life, we create it for ourselves, its the gift of human life that you are committed to a single course. You can change course, you can create and you can re-create your life and you are more likely to do that if you tap into the things you find motivating and fulfilling than not. Because in the end, its simply that, its about ‘energy’.

Our education system is based on a linear mode of production, its I believe why there is many people feeling detach in their own talent. Being in education system the priority is certain type of talent, marginalize the vast majority of the other ones. And if you are not good at something like mathematics you are assume to not to be good generally.

And for me its why we have to argue for a transformation education – not just that – in our work places. But it begins with transforming ourselves – you have to be at peace with yourselves – at least at peace with your own possibilities.

And as Gandhi says, you have to be the change you want to see in the world. You can’t promote things to which you aren’t sensitive.That’s why there’s so many teachers have problem promoting creativity because they themselves aren’t in touch with their own possibilities. That’s why we have declined.

But in the end, it comes back to what Carl Jung have said,
“I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to become”

As a human being, you are born with a lot of choices, and I think for our own fulfilment, we should – explore and make the right one.”

Fairytale vs Reality

One time when i was so down i try to look for a happy movie in my movie collection and found none, i was so into serious, thinking, kind of movies that i dont have any movie collection that can make me happy. Everything was just reality, which of cause we do need to be realistic but theres nothing wrong to get away from it sometime.

It was then i came to understand why some people watch chick flicks, or those typical malay movies or drama that i hate and wonder why people are watching it. The answer was simple, they just want to escape from reality no matter how nonsense the story line can be.

Or to be exact, they just dont want to think because they have been thinking a lot when they were at work and just want to come home for a nice show on tv/movie

Its like they get to see what they hope a better world could be, even if it means seeing a good looking rapist marrying their own victim. Its almost the same as Brother Grimms version of Sleeping Beauty whereby Prince Charming were raping Aurora in her sleep and married her.
But that version were not so popular as much as the Disney’s of cause.
Still it showed how the majority people in this world still love a good fairytale compared to reality.

So this just happened

And I’m like:

directionersliife:    Thank You to 60+ Follower   I like love you guys.

I don’t really check my stats so I was surprised to see how much they have grown for the last 5 years since I made this blog.  All I can say is thank you for your time spent here, I hope whatever I share here is beneficial for you as much as I have benefited from writing in this blog.  I know that some of you may just stumbled across this blog as you were looking for something else, some stayed on and read my posts, and perhaps some comes back to read more posts…….while most of you are silent readers, still I would like to thank my readers for spending their precious time to read the posts.  Even though the numbers are small but it made my day that somewhere out there,someone is taking the time to read my blog. (“,)

 

Meanwhile…..

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 I now know how come there was a sudden interest on my post Tun Dr M , thanks to Kelab Che Det for featuring that post, also to the rest of Tun Dr M fans for dropping by . It was a translated version of the original postings from another blogger:  peribadidrmahathir & ohcikgu  , since that it was written in Malay so I translate it into english so that more people can know their beautiful love story.  Feel free to share 🙂